S4SC1 - Empathic Confrontation: A Live Demonstration / Two Approaches
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Track 2
Innovation
| Saturday, June 1, 2024 |
| 3:45 PM - 5:15 PM |
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Skills Class
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We may feel sorrow while witnessing the pain and struggle of our clients – but empathy is not sympathy. We may feel compelled to repair, comfort, and heal – but empathy is not compassion. Empathy is the experience of “knowing” that includes and goes beyond intellectual sense-making; a bone-deep, skin-felt, resonance that acts as an important prelude to necessary confrontations in treatment – for pattern breaking, limit setting, as well as fortifying connection.
Empathic confrontation is an essential part of the therapy relationship in schema therapy. While many schema therapists transition easily into limited reparenting and rescripting roles, confrontation can often remain a challenge. Yet, we know that to adequately meet unmet needs, we need to effectively confront and bypass rigid coping modes and strident inner critics; to set limits, forge connections to the vulnerable child, and fortify the therapy relationship.
In this LIVE demonstration (with an actor playing a narcissistic client), Wendy Behary will share an elaborated version of the conventional empathic confrontation, while Eckhard Roediger will demonstrate a contextual approach.
We may feel sorrow while witnessing the pain and struggle of our clients – but empathy is not sympathy. We may feel compelled to repair, comfort, and heal – but empathy is not compassion. Empathy is the experience of “knowing” that includes and goes beyond intellectual sense-making; a bone-deep, skin-felt, resonance that acts as an important prelude to necessary confrontations in treatment – for pattern breaking, limit setting, as well as fortifying connection.
Empathic confrontation is an essential part of the therapy relationship in schema therapy. While many schema therapists transition easily into limited reparenting and rescripting roles, confrontation can often remain a challenge. Yet, we know that to adequately meet unmet needs, we need to effectively confront and bypass rigid coping modes and strident inner critics; to set limits, forge connections to the vulnerable child, and fortify the therapy relationship.
In this LIVE demonstration (with an actor playing a narcissistic client), Wendy Behary will share an elaborated version of the conventional empathic confrontation, while Eckhard Roediger will demonstrate a contextual approach.
Speaker
Eckhard Roediger
Director
Ist-frankfurt
Empathic Confrontation: A Live Demonstration / Two Approaches
Biography
Eckhard Roediger (MD), born 1959, neurologist, psychiatrist and psychotherapist. Trained in psychodynamic and cognitive-behavior therapy. Formerly Director of a Psychosomatic Department of a clinic in Berlin (GER), since 2007 working in Private Practice and Director of the Schema Therapy Training Center in Frankfurt (GER). Member of the ISST Board since 2008, past-President and now honorary member. Author of books on schema therapy for couples and integrating an ACT-perspective into Schematherapy.
Wendy Behary
The Cognitive Therapy Center Of NJ and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC
Empathic Confrontation: A Live Demonstration / Two Approaches
Biography
With 25+ years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating clients,
training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 25 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York (until the Institutes merged in 2012), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck’s Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. She is currently the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee for the ISST.
Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of an international bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist...” translated in 16 languages. The Third Edition was recently released and was selected by Oprah Daily as one of the top books on the subject of Narcissism. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and subject matter expert on narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, narcissism, interpersonal relationships, anger, and dealing with difficult people. She receives consistent high praise for her clear and articulate teaching style and her ability to bring the therapy to life through dramatic demonstrations of client interactions in the treatment room.
Her work industry business speaking engagements focus on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems.
Publications:
Behary, W. T., Farrell, J. M., Vaz, A., Rousmaniere, T., Deliberate Practice in Schema Therapy (Essentials of Deliberate Practice), American Psychological Association; 1st edition (February 28, 2023).
Heath, G., Startup, H., , Chapter Author, Behary, W., Empathic Confrontation and Limit Setting,
Beck, A.T., Davis D., and Freeman, A., Third Edition, Cognitive Therapy of Personality Disorders, Chapter Author, Behary, W., and Davis, D., Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Guilford Press (October 2014).
Behary, W., Disarming the Narcissist..., New Harbinger Publications (Third Edition, October 1, 2021).
Behary, W., Article: “Challenging the Narcissist, How to Find Pathways to Empathy”, Psychotherapy Networker, (July/August 2013).
Ogrodniczuk, J., Treating Pathological Narcissism, Chapter Author, Behary, W., The Art of Adaptive Re-Parenting in the Treatment of Narcissism, APA Publications, (2013).
Van Vreeswijk, M., The Handbook of Schema Therapy, Chapter Author, Behary, W., Schema Therapy for Narcissism, Wiley Publications, (2012).
Campbell, W.K., and Miller, J.D., The Handbook of Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Chapter Author, Schema Therapy for Narcissism, Wiley Publications, (2011).
Dieckmann, E., and Behary, W., Journal Article: German Publication: Schematherapie: Ein Ansatz zur Behandlung narzisstischer Persönlichkeitsstörungen, Translation: Pattern Therapy: A Beginning for the Treatment of Narcissistic Personality Disturbances, 2010.
Behary, W., Article: The Way to Say It... Taking on Some of the Most Challenging Moments in the Treatment Room, In Consultation, Psychotherapy Networker, May/June 2010
Behary, W., Disarming The Narcissist...Surviving and Thriving With The Self- Absorbed, New Harbinger Publications, (First Edition, 2008).
Schema Therapy: Advances and Innovation in Clinical Practice
Routledge Press, London, (2020).
Behary, W., Article: The Art of Empathic Confrontation, Case Studies, The Psychotherapy Networker, (March/April edition, 2008).
Shapiro, F., EMDR, An Integrative Psychotherapy Approach, Chapter Author, Zangwill, W., Young, J., and Behary, W., Integrating Schema Therapy with EMDR, American Psychological Association, (2002).
Tarrier, Wells, and Haddock, Treating Complex Cases, Chapter Author, Young, J., and Behary, W., Schema Focused Therapy for Personality Disorders, Wiley Series in Clinical Psychology, (1998).
